2022. Is it 2020 all over again?
Welcome to 2022. It's a new year, with new hopes and dreams and the chance to start fresh! Or, is it? COVID is still hanging around, quarantine is still happening, these does not seem to be much stability and we are still having division amongst family and friends as values clash. So, what to do?
1. Going to therapy is a good option. Going to therapy gives us a protected space to share our thoughts and feelings and to be in a space where our needs are considered all of the time. How do you find a therapist? There are lots of directories but often, word of mouth is the best way to find someone who is a good fit for you. You can contact us here as well and if we are not a good fit for you, we will help you find some referrals. It's been a difficult time lately and that bring me to number 2.
2. Help a brother or sister out! It's been tough lately, and while some philosophers believe altruism isn't a real thing. I do. There is nothing like the feeling of helping another human being out for no reason other than it is the right thing to do. I am a huge fan of Harry Potter; it is one of my favorite love stories of all time because it is filled with kind acts even when things seemed the darkest. Who doesn't truly love the heroes we never hear about? By the way, a continued heartfelt thanks to all the front line responders and medical staff who have been saving lives quietly every day.
3. Mindfullness. I really do dislike the buzz around this word but do, appreciate the practice and positive impact of mindfulness. What is mindfulness really? The Buddhist monks have been working on this for a very long time and will tell you, it takes a lot of practice to reign in your stubborn mind. The short version is it is being in the moment, being able to experience the moment and not let your judgments change the moment. Joy is just joy, not good or bad, but just joy. And the same goes for those pesky negative emotions like anger, pride, resentment and greed to name a few. Take a walk, notice the leaves on the ground and the smell of smoke in the cold air and watch your dog's tail wag as he mindfully experiences joy and happiness on this walk with you.
4. And lastly, will. We get to decide how it will turn out even if we feel like everything is out of control. Have you ever seen anyone grateful for something that you might take for granted? Maybe you don't even notice it anymore? This is a great time to look at your values and make sure you are living by them each day. If not, then maybe your life choices or your values need some adjustment.
From me (stephanie) and the rest of the team at Psychology & Wellness Group PDX, here is hoping your 2022 rocks your socks off! Oh yeah, and no matter what you see or hear on social media these days, take a minute to decide for yourself if 2022 will be 2020 all over again or if it will be better.